Top 5 Tips Spice up Your Sexy Scenes Lilia Moon

Posted December 18, 2017 by Julie in Marketing Tip Monday, Top 5 Tips, Writing Tip Wednesday / 2 Comments

Welcome to an entire month of Top 5 Tips for Authors!

ABSOLUTELY FREE!

Every day this month my friends and I will bring you a new set of Top 5 Tips to help you along on your author journey. 2017 was a year of change in the Indie author world for sure. So many happenings. So many new things to learn. So many old things that didn’t quite do what you’d hoped. Well, every day is a new day. And every year is a new year. So we hope that this month’s worth of tips will get you the kick start you need to make 2018 your best yet and please feel free to ask questions and leave comments.

My guest blogger today is Lilia Moon! You know you, you just don’t know you know her. Sexpot in pajamas by day, erotic dreamer by night. She thought she knew who she was as an author, and then one night she sat down at her computer and Emily and Damon showed up.

 

::waves at Julie’s readers.::  I’m Lilia Moon, writer of cuddlekink.  (I know you’ve never heard of that before.  I made it up, because it describes exactly what I write.)  I’m here to offer some thoughts to authors about spicing up their sex scenes so that those of you reading get more of what you want.  If you have thoughts to share, I’d love to hear from you in the comments.  What makes for a sex scene that totally rocks your world?

If you’d rather read spicy sex scenes than talk about them, I have free copies of the first book in my Fettered series here.  One for everyone who wants one today.  Happy holidays. J

And now to advice for authors…  Here are five tips I use to spice up my sex scenes.  I write a lot of them and I still love doing it, so something must be working!

1 Let your inner sexpot have the wheel.

It’s totally possible to craft a good scene (sex or otherwise) when you’re not feeling it.  We’re all pros and we’ve all done it.  But why would you?  There are so many sexy options – find ones that speak to you and make writing sex fun.  Also, nothing is sacred.  Don’t write things you don’t like.  There are no blow jobs in my books.  I haven’t had a reader complain yet.

2 Go deep into your characters’ heads and hearts

Sex makes people more open, more vulnerable, more perceptive, more in touch with their skin and their soul. Use that.  Sex is about being naked, and a lot more than body parts are uncovered.  That’s still true, maybe even more so, if you write explicit or edgy sex.

He starts rubbing a hard, fast pattern on my clit as his thumb slides in and out of my ass.

There are sounds from the people watching.  Appreciation.  Arousal.

I can feel my cheeks flaming. 

“Let them see.  Let them feel a little of what you feel.”  He’s smiling at me, his face in close to mine. 

I know what they can see, and it isn’t just his fingers bringing me to the brink.  It’s his eyes, his tenderness, his commitment to being here with me in the way that I need.  No toys, no props, no roles.  Just his hands and what lives between the two of us on raw, wide-open display.

I’m so fiercely proud of us.

3 Write outside the norm

One of my fave characters is a cookie-baking grandma who has sizzling-hot sex. (Book 3 of my series.  Go look at the reviews and see how many readers thank me.)  Another way of going at this is to start someplace unexpected.

I’ve been awake for almost half an hour, breathing in the magic of a sunny winter morning in Seattle, stroking the hair of the woman curled up next to me.

I’m sorely tempted to do a lot more than touch her hair, but I’ve learned from experience that Ari sleeps like the dead.  Teasing her awake involves body armor, blunt instruments, and a coffee intravenous drip, not necessarily in that order.

4 Pay attention

When you read a sex scene you love (and if you aren’t reading any, get off this blog and go get your ereader out, stat!), ask why.  Not right then while you’re high on sexy fumes, but bookmark it.  Come back to it.  Figure out what special sauce they’ve used.

5 Foreplay matters, for both your characters and your readers

He slides off whatever he’s used to restrain my wrists and gives my covered ass a gentle pat.  “Opening meditation has started.  I set you up a mat and bolster in the back row.”

My first thought—aww, that’s really sweet.

Until my brain catches up with the vague something in his tone that isn’t sweet at all.

Oh, shit.

LILIA GOT INTO THIS! LOL, SO SHE’S GOT  BUNCH OF BONUS TIPS FOR YOU!

6 The scene after the sex scene matters too

She turns her head so that her eyes are aimed at mine when she opens them.  She smiles, and it’s lopsided and happy.  “That was nice.”

Her voice sounds like an old jazz singer.  The ones who smoked a couple of packs out back before they got up to sing.  My ego isn’t big enough to think I did that to her.  Mostly she did it to herself, but she let me hold her cloak, and that feels damn good.

7 Use craft to your advantage

Look at scene length – it can be a great tool for pacing.  When things get really hot, my scenes often get really short.  Write from both POV.  Sex is between two people (or more, if you’re fancy.)  Sometimes a single point of view can work, but hearing from both sides is an easy way to make it more intimate for the reader.

8 It’s not all cock and pussy

That’s easy to say as a kinky writer, because I have a lot of fun toys I can add to the mix (and you can too!), but try writing an entire sex scene without those body parts.

9 Spice up by slowing down.

Or get tender.  Get funny.  Get embarrassing.  Get sweet.  Haze-of-lust sex works – sometimes.  It works better when it has contrast.

Her breath hitches, and the sound that comes out of her is as sexy as it gets.

I let my fingers travel further down.  Slowly.  This all happens on my time.  To my beat. 

She’s soaking wet.  I can smell her, practically taste her.

The moment when I finally let this woman come in my hands is going to be one of the highlights of my fucking life.

I know, that’s more than five tips.  Which brings me to number ten.  Sometimes you just need to let yourself get a little carried away. 😉

HERE’S THE OTHER TIPS IF YOU MISSED THEM!

SET GOALS TO WIN (Viv Arend)
BE MORE CREATIVE (Violet Vaughn) 
WRITE MORE BOOKS (JA Huss)
CREATE GREAT CHARACTERS (Brenna Aubrey) 
BUILDING WORLDS (Blair Babylon)
BUILD A STRONG BRAND (Cora Seton)
WRITING FOR TV & FILM (Johnathan McClain)
FINDING YOUR FANS (JA Huss)
GET DISCOVERED (Deanna Chase)
FIND AUTHOR FRIENDS (Deanna Chase)
HOST A KICK-ASS GIVEAWAY (Blair Babylon)
GIVE BACK. FREELY (JA Huss)
LAUNCH YOUR FIRST BOOK (JA Huss)
STAND OUT IN A CROWD (Julia Kent)
BE YOURSELF ( Blair Babylon)
KILLING IMPOSTOR SYNDROME (JA Huss)
DEADLINES & DREAMING (JA Huss)

Subscribe to Blog via Email

Enter your email address to subscribe to this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email.

Join 2,263 other subscribers

Please follow and like us:
0

Posted December 18, 2017 by Julie in Marketing Tip Monday, Top 5 Tips, Writing Tip Wednesday / 2 Comments


2 responses to “Top 5 Tips Spice up Your Sexy Scenes Lilia Moon

  1. Lilia Moon

    A link to the giveaway that will hopefully actually work… BookHip.com/LWSNSG

    (Dear Julie’s blog software. Let the people get to the sex. It’s Monday. They’ve earned it.)